Thursday, May 1, 2014

Farewell, Ladies’ Home Journal




I read with sadness, but not with surprise, last week’s news that the venerable Ladies Home Journal, after 130 years of advising women on such subjects as cooking, cleaning and “Can this marriage be saved?”, will cease monthly publication in July, lay off the 35 people on the staff and move production from New York to Des Moines, although the Meredith Corporation will publish a quarterly, newsstand-only, special-interest publication as well as a website to keep the magazine’s brand alive.

LHJ, as we called it, was where I had my first real job—from 1964 to the mid-Seventies—but I took two years off, 1968 and '69, to travel and then work as an editor on a magazine in London.

My first glimpse of the heady world of women’s magazines was in June of 1961 when I won Mademoiselle magazine’s Guest Editor contest and was transported, along with 19 other coeds from around the country, to the Barbizon Hotel (no men allowed above the ground floor), where we found a red rose on the bed in our tiny rooms with a month-long schedule of glamorous events that bore no relation to a real job.

The editor of MLLE was the legendary Betsy Talbot Blackwell, the mother of the makeover. She was one of the last of what I call the Pleistocene Era of magazine editors--a group of eminent women who, early in the 20th century, ruled their kingdoms with the proverbial iron hand in a velvet glove. (I suspect that very few of these early triple-named lady editors would fit into a size six, much less size zero dress.) They dictated to the women of America what to wear and cook and how to behave, and the women of America took their word as gospel. (I have a very early issue of Ladies Home Journal that warns its readers sternly: if they dye their hair they will go insane.)

In 1964, when I set out to find a magazine job in New York, armed with a B.A., a Phi Beta Kappa key and a Master’s degree from Columbia’s Graduate School of Journalism, I considered myself a Serious Journalist. So naturally I applied at the Time/Life empire. A nice woman in Human Resources told me, “If you really want to write—to be a reporter—then you shouldn’t apply for a job at Time/Life because women here cannot get higher on the masthead than researcher.”

I did not protest in outrage nor hunt for a lawyer, because this was 1964. I gathered up my resumé and my portfolio, thanked her for her honesty and went to look elsewhere.

After six months of a public relations job for Lever Brothers in their iconic Park Avenue glass building, I moved a few blocks uptown to work at Ladies’ Home Journal, at 54th and Lexington (across from what would be Studio 54 where Andy Warhol and Truman Capote played.)  I considered myself lucky to land a job as an assistant in the Food Department.  My salary was $80 a week.

I worked with two other young women in a windowless room next to the LHJ Test Kitchen, where I wrote articles like “A is for Apple”, how to choose a ripe melon, and an occasional restaurant review. Shortly after the Beatles invaded New York in 1964, our kitchen became a popular gathering spot because word got around that you could scrape the insides of banana peels, toast the result and get high smoking it. Mellow yellow! We tested and puffed, but it didn’t work.

The new editor of LHJ was boy wonder John Mack Carter, a dynamic, modern editor-in-chief, but many of the women I worked with had served under the old-school editorial team of Bruce and Beatrice Gould, who ruled the roost from 1935 to 1962.  My colleagues shared tales of serving at the Gould’s cocktail parties, laundering their clothes and —strangely—cleaning Mrs. Gould’s pearls.

My immediate boss at LHJ was a celebrity food editor—Poppy Cannon. She was known for many things including "The Can-Opener Cookbook" and her multiple husbands, among them Walter White, the founder of the NAACP and Chef Phillipe of the Waldorf. Her sister was the designer, Anne Fogarty.

Poppy was, as she often told us, the first woman elected to the Chevaliers de Tastevin. She would occasionally organize wine-tastings in the LHJ food kitchens, and I would assist. She would take a mouthful of wine, roll it around in her mouth, then spit it out into a silver cup before cleansing the palate with a little bread and going on to the next wine. My job, which did not really require a master’s degree or a Phi Beta Kappa key, was to hold the cup into which Poppy spit.

Poppy was a glamorous and, yes, Amazonian woman who liked to wear long, sweeping dresses and matching turbans which increased her height to well over six feet. She often displayed various medals on her ample chest, pinned to sashes like royalty. She was, in fact, very sweet and not intimidating like Meryl Streep’s Miranda Priestly in The Devil Wears Prada, but Poppy was rather needy and helpless when she was between husbands.

She often didn’t feel like coming into the office, so I would have to go to her Park Avenue home. While she reclined on a chaise longue, wearing one of a dazzling wardrobe of peignoirs and muumuus, she would dictate her column for the magazine while I took notes. During the whole time I knew Poppy, the stove and oven in her kitchen did not work, so she would send me out to get lunch for both of us. And usually she had no cash on hand, so she’d tell me to expense it.

In the end, I wrote many of her articles myself, because after a while I got the hang of her uniquely florid style. Poppy also once invited me and a colleague out for a weekend at her house in West Redding, CT. We were driven in style by a car and chauffeur, but it turned out that we were there to clean the house and serve at the table.

In my early years on MLLE and then LHJ, I met a number of glamorous, larger-than-life women from the post-Pleistocene generation whom I call the “Best of Everything” editors-- because they are the ones Rona Jaffe was writing about in her novel of that name. They belong on the list of visionary, intelligent, glamorous and sometimes impossible women who carried the torch in an era when Ladies Home Journal staff members were given aprons with the slogan “Never underestimate the power of a woman.”

There was Bruce Clerke, my personal editor at MLLE in 1961 during the month I was a guest editor. She was later the beauty editor of LHJ when I was hired there.  She suffered my Midwestern naiveté with great good humor and tact, as when I tried to drink the shrimp cocktail at La Fonda del Sol during our first lunch. Bruce was a beautiful southern belle, (a college Azalea Queen, if I remember correctly).

The fiction editor at LHJ was Phyllis Levy, a slender and vivacious woman who entranced a series of men but, to my knowledge, never married. (Her good friend Rona Jaffe wrote about Phyllis’s chameleon personality in the story “Rima the Bird Girl.”) One morning, as I was answering reader mail in my closet off the test kitchens, Phyllis dashed in clutching a bottle of champagne and a tin of caviar. “Put this in the refrigerator,” she commanded. “I met the most fabulous man and he’s flying me to Paris tonight.”  This, I mused, was more like the job I had imagined than the reality of holding a spit jar at a wine tasting.

And the late Lois Benjamin Gould was the first editor to stride into the office wearing a pants suit. She looked thin, tragic and beautiful. Our jaws dropped. Anything that Lois did, we knew, must be the Next Big Thing. I believe this was after Lois’s husband had died and she dropped out of sight for about a year while she wrote Such Good Friends about discovering her husband’s adultery-- another “fiction” book, like The Bell Jar,  Heartburn, and The Devil Wears Prada that was really faction.

At this time I was sharing an apartment on 14th Street with three young women, all in some form of journalism. Two were researchers on news magazines and, it’s true, the female researchers were expected to travel with the reporter, to help, research, support and socialize with him, but never to write. In those days, believe it or not, nobody got by-lines on the articles in Time, except for columnists. Nowadays, everybody who has anything to do with a piece gets his/her name at the end. Which is only fair.

We each chipped in a dollar a day for food and took turns cooking. When Time closed on Friday nights, there was always a big buffet on the top floor and our Time/Life researcher roommate would bring home leftovers. There was no swag for magazine assistants-–certainly not the way there is today--but I remember one Christmas when Restaurant Associates sent me a box made of chocolate with my named spelled out on the lid.

Once in a while the Fashion Department would sell off clothes at a bargain-basement price and I snagged a dress that was originally worn by Twiggy in a fashion spread. And recently my daughter, Eleni wore that same mini-dress to her job as a magazine editor.

Eventually I was allowed to move on from writing about food and got to do articles for the foreign syndication arm of the company, with titles like “The Royal Marriage-go-round”  and “The Women Behind George Wallace.” In the photo above from Feb. 1967 I was discussing one of my articles with Ruth Jacobs on the “Jewish Home Show”, while rocking a mini-dress and a would-be Vidal Sassoon hairstyle.

On March 18, 1970, at least 100 feminists staged a sit-in at the Ladies Home Journal, protesting the way the magazine’s mostly male top editors depicted women’s interests.  They occupied the chief editor’s office for 11 hours while the national media watched. They held prisoner my boss, John Mack Carter, and the managing editor Lenore Hershey.  They even smoked JMC’s cigars!

The feminists brought a mock magazine called “Women’s Liberated Journal” and demanded articles on subjects like  “How to get a Divorce” and “How to have an Orgasm” and “What to tell your draft-age son”.

In the end, JMC agreed to let the feminists produce a section of the August 1970 issue.  Later, in 1973 he left LHJ to be editor in chief of Good Housekeeping at Hearst publications, and Lenore Hershey became LHJ’s editor in chief—one of the first women to head one of the “seven sisters” magazines, which had huge circulations, much larger than today’s.

Unfortunately I wasn’t there to see the historic confrontation, because by then I was married, had a baby and was working mostly at home, writing articles for the company's foreign syndication service. 

So farewell, Ladies Home Journal! The magazine has long been out of touch with the women of America, who have far different interests and goals than they did during the Mad Men era when I worked there. But I can’t help remembering those days fondly, even though we were vastly underpaid and under-respected in our jobs.  And I still have the apron I wore in the test kitchen, printed with the magazine’s slogan, “Never underestimate the power of a woman.”



Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Amalia’s Egg-straordinary Manhattan Adventure



Last week I was in Manhattan, where Spring is in full bloom (not like here in Massachusetts), and I got to tag along after granddaughter Amalia, 2 ½, to see how a preschooler who lives on the Upper East Side fills her days.


On Tuesdays and Thursdays she has yoga at a nearby store called Sprout, with teachers Rebecca and Samara.


It includes headstands, tree pose while balancing, and, her favorite-- kicking at bubbles.  There are stories and songs too.


We went to Central Park every day, stopping to admire the gardens in front of some brownstones.


In Central Park the daffodils and lots of other flowers were in bloom.


Some days the playground was crowded.  Amalia had new sand toys for building castles and hiding treasures.  She’s getting better at sharing.



Other days, especially in the late afternoon, we had the playground to ourselves.


We ate with Mommy at some of Amalia’s favorite restaurants, including Big Daddy’s Diner.


And had breakfast with Uncle Bob and Aunt Robin at Alice’s Teacup, featuring Amalia’s new favorite food—pancakes.


Everywhere we went we encountered giant eggs decorated by artists.  There are nearly 300 of them “hidden” around Manhattan and on April 22 they will be sold at a Grand Auction. The bids are already coming in—each egg starts at $500 and the egg by Jeff Koons (we didn’t see it) has already hit $360,000.  


The money will be used for art education for New York City’s children and to aid Asia’s endangered elephants.  And weekly prizes of jeweled egg pendants are being given away.  If you want to know more, check at thebigegghunt.org/auction.


When we went into the Metropolitan Museum on Friday afternoon, we found three more giant eggs.


We were coming for dinner at the Petrie Court Café, which Amalia likes because she can run around and look at things, but first she wanted to show me the Temple of Dendur in the Sackler Wing.


Especially her beloved alligator.


And she had to throw some pennies into the reflecting pool to make wishes.


Then we walked through the American Wing to get to the Café.


Amalia discovered that she could make a hat out of her napkin.


She had salmon and noodles and strawberry ice cream for dessert at the end of an exciting day, but sometimes, after her adventures, Amalia has to take a power nap on the way home.







Monday, April 14, 2014

Are You Ready for the Blood Moon?

                                                                                     

As you probably know, tonight is the beginning of Passover.  You may also know that tonight we have a full moon—and the full moon will experience a total eclipse, climaxing between 3:07 and 4:25 Eastern Standard Time tomorrow morning (April 15—income tax day.).

But did you know that the moon will appear to be red in color and that this is referred to as a “Blood Moon”?  And even more rare—tonight’s blood moon will be the first of four such full moons—each appearing six months after the last one—occurring through 2014 and 2015.  Four blood moons are called a Lunar Tetrad and a Tetrad, according to the Bible –is what will happen to mark the end of days.

“The sun will be turned to darkness, and the moon to blood before the great and dreadful day of the LORD comes.”

(This theory has been publicized by Pastor John Hagee in his 2013 book “Four Blood Moons: Something is About to Change.”)

So are you ready for the end of the world? 

Happy Passover!  Pesach Sameach!

P.S. I don’t really believe this, of course, but I’m always fascinated by superstitions and the way they are often shared by completely unrelated ethnic groups and how they often seem to have roots in ancient pre-Christian times.

Here’s one that I heard recently, first as a Greek superstition, then I learned it was also a popular belief in Viet Nam:  If two siblings get married in the same year, one of those marriages will end in divorce.

But why?


Do you have any mysterious superstitions to share?

Wednesday, April 2, 2014

Aging Gracefully vs. Cosmetic Intervention

Danny Ghitis for The New York Times

When I saw the large photograph of Dr. Fredric Brandt, the “King of Collagen” on the front of last Sunday’s New York Times Styles section, I was startled by the image of an expressionless face with red over-puffed lips and a gold halo around his head like that of a saint on a Greek Orthodox icon.

My first thought was that it was Bruce Jenner, father to the Kardashian klan, who seems to be turning from a man into a woman with the help of cosmetic fillers and plastic surgery.



But no, it was an article on dermatologist Fredric Brandt, who is evidently the leading doctor of choice with celebrities like Madonna and Stephanie Seymour, thanks to his ability to keep them looking ageless.  According to The Times, “Dr. Brandt is the designated magician responsible for keeping faces both well known and otherwise in states of extraordinary preservation. …The 64-year-old physician acts as the syringe-wielding wizard responsible for using techniques like his signature Y lifts—in which fillers are injected below the cheekbones—to hold back time for any number of supermodels, trophy wives, celebrities and industrial titans of either sex.”

The author of the article, Guy Trebay, responded to a comment by Dr. Brandt that some Hollywood stars want to cut too soon, to overfill, “When there’s too much pulling, too many procedures, you lose the softness along with the personality of the face…” by asking him if he felt his experiments on himself had produced that effect.  Brandt replied, “People think I look pretty good.”

Now I’m not in a position to criticize people for using cosmetic surgery, since I’ve written several articles for Vogue magazine on the subject of my two facelifts over the past 20 years and a go-around with “Fraxel: Repair” laser treatment five years ago. (I’m now 73.).  But my gut reaction to The Times’ photograph of Dr. Brandt was that he’d be an ideal candidate to play a vampire in one of those films that have become so popular recently. His skin is so taut and his face so pale (except for the red puffy lips) that he seems embalmed.

This was much like the reaction my husband had to the sight of Kim Novak in her much-discussed appearance at the Oscars.  (I missed it, but looked her up later.  The problem that both Kim Novak and Dr. Brandt seem to have is:  too much filler and too much Botox, eliminating all the expression lines that make a face individual.)

On Sunday I saw the article on Brandt, then on Tuesday I looked up the reactions on-line to the piece.  I wondered if I was the only one appalled by the famous doctor’s work on himself, but after reading 106 comments, I learned that the vast majority of the reactions echo my thoughts—that the doctor’s appearance is “super creepy” and, as one person wrote.  When a doctor can't even perceive his own disfigurement, how could you possibly trust his aesthetic decisions?”

 Monday night, on the Turner Classic Movie channel, I saw an hour-long interview with Eva Marie Saint, talking about her life in films and the leading men and directors she’s worked with.  She said straight out that she was 88 years old (and has been married to the same man for over 60 years.) People, she’s turning 90 on July 4, 2014!


I thought she looked wonderful—she had wrinkles, sure, but they were nice wrinkles.  I can’t tell you if she’s had any “work” done, but her neck did have the turkey wattle effect that is so hard to avoid.  I remembered Eva Marie Saint vividly from her role in “On the Waterfront” with Marlon Brando.  It was her first film and she won an Oscar for it in 1954, when I was 13. It was a shock to see once again in the clips from the film what a young, innocent, almost vulnerable girl she appeared.  But now, at 88, she was confidant, vivacious, funny, smart and she moved with youthful grace—all of which made her seem much younger than her years.

I listened avidly to what she said about her life, hoping to catch some clues as to how she remained so vital.  One thing she emphasized was:  “You have to walk every day—walk for an hour every single day!”  It was also a matter of genes—her mother had lived into her nineties.  And she remarked several times that she had a very happy childhood and a long, loving marriage to a husband who was a director—and thus understood her art as an actress.  But she felt that if she had married a fellow actor—or a lawyer or doctor—there might have been a clash of egos that would doom the marriage.

First I heard about all the plastic surgery digs on the social networks during the Oscars, then last weekend I read about Dr. Brandt and saw the results of his work. Finally, after marveling at how Eva Marie Saint has maintained her verve and beauty for 88 years, I think it’s time for me to stop fighting.

In the last year or so I’ve acquired those fine crepe-y wrinkles around the mouth and eyes. Everyone knows that  people like me, with fair skin and blue eyes, wrinkle sooner and worse than those with darker skin, but I’ve decided to let time take its toll without further cosmetic intervention---except, maybe, just a teensy, tiny shot of Botox between the eyebrows now and then, when I notice that those frown lines are back, making me look perpetually angry.